Rev. Sabino Lamb

"Kiss me once more;

because your love is sweeter than wine "

(Song 1:2 - NV)

"... Honey and milk are found under your tongue ..."

(Song 4:11)

"The kiss is a form of dialogue"

(George Sand)

In 1992, I had five years of marriage, two children and a good relationship with my wife. I've always been to analyze, so I became a therapist. In the summer of that year, as always, went to the beach on vacation, our children, then had four and two years and took a couple to care for children. One morning, in the wake of the sun, staring at the sky, internet surfing and searching my mind google1 in my consciousness, I found that it had been some time since I kissed my beautiful wife as I kissed her in the days of dating . I was living that time that every couple live, to give only those bitocas fast and free content from the days of courtship that was the kiss film, ardent, passionate. The sun was increasingly gaining space on earth and as a clear sunny day, focused more clear than ever that, with respect to the kiss, everything was dark in my marital relationship. On that warm summer morning, I decided to devise a plan to heat, afoguear my relationship with my beloved. It took fourteen years and each day I am convinced that it was one of the biggest investments in my relationship and a great blessing to my marriage. I do not remember how long I spent plotting and scheming that plan sensational. I'm sure not as time passed, but without haste and with all the vacation time that allowed us to live so well, "sinister", as an adolescent dreamer, and prepared the day "D" or better, the day "B".

That day, more than ever, I was a good father and good husband, played with children, spent above the average of the budget with these gadgets that sell sacoleiros beach for kids: popsicle, kite, soverte, cap, coconut, Disposable tattoo ... and to my wife, all his probably ask on the beach. On that day, until Bill Gates lost to me, I felt rich with a revolutionary design capable of putting the head down the computer market, or rather the marriage. We had lunch earlier and the menu was a light meal, of course. I, as planned, always friendly and buying everything my family wanted. We arrived at the apartment, took a shower and boys firing on all cylinders, wanting to play with the new acquired by the sweat of my honest work. I called the nanny with an education above normal and said, "Please, take the kids to play on the playground. I'll take a break, and you do not come back (increased the tone of voice) I wake up. When I wake up, go down and seek the children "and so it happened.

When the children left, I went to the door and closed it, took the key, looked straight in the eye of Leila and said, "you see this key?". She replied: "I am." So I said: "Today I'm not leaving here until we catch up on a pending matter, and their children (I stressed, gently but firmly) will not return until I go get them, and I'll just get them after we hit it. " I made a face of Don Juan and she always very shy, said, "what matter? What are you thinking? What do you want? "I thought to myself. For now this is not what you're wondering (and did that guy again, now more daring). She felt cornered and said: "Bininho (affectionate nickname that only she is allowed to call it) I want my children." I answered coldly and tenderly: "only after we solve the outstanding issue and I really need your cooperation." Then, with a masterful agility, slipped into his pocket and pulled out a mint gum. I gave her and so sweet but firm, said: "Prove it." I took another and put in the mouth and chewing, I said vehemently: "when we were dating, we had the hottest kiss in the world (after all, was I who had taught her to kiss) and after we married that kiss died and I want it back because we only get out of here after this happens exactly as it was "- and with a low and vulgar psychology, but infallible, appealed to his mother's side saying slowly:" think of their children and cooperate. " It was an unforgettable evening for me. When the conversation started, it was around 13:30 and I kissed this woman muuuuiiiittttoooooo until around 17h. The thing was so rusted that the first attempt only found air. So sweetly, I exclaimed: "No, love is not so, keep calm." The mismatch due to lack of practice was evident, but I was determined. Decisively decided that this decision would decide the future of my relationship. You know what I say to you now "experience!, Experiences."

I never said that my marriage was the same. I travel this country to minister to meet couples and always give a good laugh when I tell this story. It could be rich if you put a panel of mint chewing gum after the talk.

When I received the invitation to write something for this project, I immediately thought: "I will talk about the kiss." The kiss is vital in a relationship for two and I'll explain why, but I say beforehand, "if you, my brother, do not put into practice, you sucks."

Some truths come to my mind when I think on this subject:

Kissing maintains and raises the romance in marriage

"The kiss is the shortest distance between two lovers" (Amy Banglin). You, my beloved brother, knows most romantic expression of love than the kiss? Almost every marriage only became a marriage because of the kiss (forced apology). What I am saying is that the kiss has been and is a passionate expression of the loving and the big question as a marriage counselor is why when you can use this powerful weapon in the marital relationship does not happen? Indeed, the lack of kissing is a very strong symptom that the romance is going to the dangerous road of indulgence, of lukewarmness, lack of creativity and, above all, lack of intimacy intimate intimately speaking, if you understand me.

Proverbs 7:13 says, "approached him and kissed him." The context refers to the adulterous woman. The trick is to bankrupt the married and in particular for women. This woman's text starts up and kisses him, she goes to fight, is not inert. The intention is evil, but certainly is for the married woman who, in most cases, the rear is just waiting. My sister, in Jesus' name, break up of this man that God gave you, go for it and kiss muuiittooooooooo.

The romanticism of the Song of Songs has much to teach us. He is a compendium that needs to be studied, understood and practiced. Their expressions are strong and passionate. In fact, it is a manual of how to relate the two, and early in the book, the importance of the kiss is declared: "Kiss me with the kiss of thy mouth: for thy love is better than wine" (Proverbs 1:2). The kiss here is a profound expression of love. I've read much of anything about family and marital relationship and still have not read anything about the importance of the relationship between married kiss. I know that most marriages that come into collision, one of the first symptoms is the lack of kissing. Someone once said, aptly, that "kiss but do not kill hunger makes people hungry." I would say that kiss is not everything, but always was and will be the beginning of a walk two and two are already on the way, kissing makes this journey more pleasant. And do not forget that kissing helps burn calories.

Kissing maintains and raises hygiene in marriage

The Kiss has a wonderful flavor, but need not be a good therapist to learn why, in most cases, the marriage ends with this flavor. The lack of oral hygiene is the main cause, for the person eats onions, garlic and piqui (you believe it) and then with that comes a history of "love, I love you" with a breath of oz, wanting to kiss. Go brush your teeth and suck bubblegum mint, my brother. In dating, he was dealing in Gobber, a special care. Once home, is careless, complacent and will lose the joy of kissing and being kissed.

If you are in my house, will always find in my room a mint or gum, Halls, after all this was a decision I took (remember?) And I take this seriously, because my relationship with my wife and not over only death can bury him. I'll even kiss her dentures, and more at the time of the kiss, I'll take the denture cup of water and give a smile to my old muuiittoo and kiss. That in about fifty years.

Kissing raises and maintains the fire of passion in marriage

I can not imagine a marital intimacy without being watered with many kisses, unless the marital relationship is fraught with selfishness, where the male is only concerned with your pleasure and, of course, the brand of these moments is the "quickie" and then the "viradinha" to the side to take a "nap" and the other day, a "acordadinha." And life goes on with these diminutives, that steal the beauty and grandeur of great pleasure and enjoyment of a supply of foreplay passionate watered, where is a greater desire to fulfill the wishes of the other and I say that without kissing it becomes a almost impossible task. I see no possible chance of the fire of passion and tenderness of love between husband and wife walk that road full of challenges and obstacles without the fuel that produces only the kiss.

Many live without ever knowing the magnitude as the book unfolds in Song, some avoid reading the book, others dream of experiencing poetry described by Solomon. The truth, dear, is that we must lose our fear of speaking openly about what the Bible tells us in the area of ​​marital intimacy. The word of God is enlightening on any matter and God is the author of pleasure.

My desire is that after reading this article, you may kiss your spouse muuiittoo. Kisses.

Rev. Sabino Golden Lamb has been married for 19 years with Leila, has two children Jonathan (18) and Sabino Junior (15). Pastor for 14 years of the First Presbyterian Church of Taguatinga (DF), is formed with full degree in Theology in Religious Education and Psychoanalysis and is a family ministry called "More of God" (www.maisdedeus.com)